I watched a Ted talk with Tony Robbins about why we do what we do and what drives us. I've heard about Tony Robbins before, a couple friends attended one of his motivational conferences. They had good things to say. Tony talks about the decisions we make and how they shape our destiny. He talked about the invisible forces that shape us. "Effective leaders have the ability to move themselves and others to action because of the invisible forces that shape us." (Robbins, 2011)
These invisible forces are emotions and human needs. Human needs are broken up into personality and spiritual. Personality needs are: certainty; uncertainty (which is really variety); significance; connection/love. Spiritual needs are growth and giving to others. People have mastered the art of personal fulfillment. This can be achieved in different ways. We can achieve personal fulfillment from doing things for ourselves, or we can achieve them from doing for others. We all have to find our own belief system and act on it. Some are more driven then others.
The reason I decided to write about this talk is because I can identify with emotional decisions shaping our destiny. At one time, 14 years ago, my target (another thing Tony talks about) was to live my passion and work in the music industry. At that time my targets were law and music. My focus was to work as an entertainment lawyer. I had many contacts in the music industry because I worked in concert production for a large promotor based in New York. Then, one of those emotional human personality needs came into play...connection/love. I met a guy in California, all the way across the other end of the country, and married. Since he was involved in Criminal Justice and my BA was in Sociology Criminal Justice, I moved to another target....Criminal Justice. Now 13 years later I am no longer married and trying to get back to the original target and it's not as easy to do. However, I am driven and I have a new focus along with a variety of new experience.